• This time last year I took my first road trip up California's 395 through the eastern Sierra mountains. I went on to Mammoth, Truckee and Yosemite.

It was epic.

The highlights for me were Bodie (Check out my highlights for "ghost town"), Mammoth (reminded me of the Canadian Rockies), and seeing the Donner Party Memorial/area.

It's a super hard state to live in, but it sure is beautiful. (PS: I made a Spotify playlist for just the drive:
  • I posted this in stories but  got so many comments I had to post it here.

I'd read an article which said how common an electric kettle is in the UK/AU but not in America. 
This was so interesting to me because my kettle is probably my most used appliance. But when I stay in homes here I can never find one.

A lot of Americans told me they use their microwave for hot water or they have a stove top.

And @astridpiepschyk explained it had to do with voltage. "Most Americans don’t own an electric kettle because the electricity voltage is too low to power a kettle effectively. In Australia, UK the voyage is 240, but in America it’s 110, and not very effective in boiling an electric kettle. It works, but takes a long time. This is why stove kettles are much more common." So what started as a post about how I love my half shelf for teacups in my 1930s cupboards turned into a great cultural and scientific conversation.

This is why I love Instagram πŸ˜€
  • Ten years ago I moved to Philadelphia to build Anthropologies first Social Media, Content and Community programs.

It was a dream come true for two reasons. One I loved the company and two I was moving in July which meant I'd have an east coast fall.

It did not disappoint.

I spent every weekend out in nature with rosy cheeks, drinking hot apple cider. All this time later, that fall is still one of my favourite s and I miss it every year.

PS: the last photo is my old garage on my one acre property in Chestnut Hill. I had an 18th century stone home which I loved. I don't think I ever really wrote about this place because i never really settled in. Something I wish I'd done but I was just so consumed with work.
  • I like taking photos at Disneyland that don't look like Disneyland.
  • This is my aunt on my french fathers side. During WWII, she got tuberculosis and was sent to a sanatorium to recover.

To pass time, she and her other young female friends would doll up, take photos and send them plus letters to soldiers to flirt with. Some they knew, some they didn't. Like old-fashioned Bumble. πŸ˜€
She was incredibly smart, witty, and fierce. In this photo she was full of possibilities and hope.

She married soon after to an abusive alcoholic, had four sons and quickly got trapped by circumstance and the era.

She was my favourite family member even though I didn't see her that often. I have one hand written letter from her and this photo which are the few family things I have.

I loved her because she always listened to me - patiently and sincerely. She saw who I really was and was so kind about it and oddly relatable. She gave me direction without advice. She laughed often, was direct when needed and sometimes acted soft. She was the only one who ever called me sweetie (my family nickname at the time was Chuck! and my family never used soft names with each other. So sweetie felt so amazingly special). I had 5 other aunts but I called her just "Aunty" as she defined them all. It was only to her that I felt a connection, unconditional love and a sense of family.

Her situation was always pitiful and dire,  but she never acted like a victim. When I saw her on her deathbed she was so small, weak and wilted from a hard life. But somehow she had always given me courage and strength, as if to say to be the possibilities she couldn't be.

Recently I hung out with my two young adult nieces and they both just called me "Aunty." Not Aunty Alex or Alex. Just Aunty.

It made me feel so special and like we have formed the same bonds that I had with my own Aunty. And that I was now being to them what she was to me. 
But more importantly, they helped me change my idea of her - the one that she never accomplished something. 
Because she did. 
She taught me how to be a good Aunty - one of my favourite things to be. That's her legacy which I think is really beautiful.

Well, that and dressing up when you feel poorly. πŸ˜€
  • The @ojaivalleyinn is one of my favourite places either for a day trip or an overnight. β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β € β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €
I always go when I need supreme rest and healing because I really really get that here. β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β € β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €
There's something so magic and calming about Ojai and this place taps into it so perfectly. And they have the best massages.

My recs? Avoid weekends and holidays. It's insane and the spa isn't as relaxing because it's just so overcrowded.

For rooms, avoid the ones above Libby's Market/Pub (I think they are the original rooms). They're just louder & smaller. β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β € β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €
I've had a suite with a patio, bedroom and fireplace down by the spa that was heaven and I've had a larger room by the main restaurant (I can't remember that buildings name) and both were amazing. This past room was in the Topa building which is their main building and it was really lovely (and had a balcony overlooking the golf course). β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β € β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β € I've  been here with girlfriends, alone, on retreats with work and loved all the experiences. I know a lot of people who come here with kids (@couldihavethat has a recent post in IG and her blog on why it's great for families) and it's also totally dog friendly (@ScoutStCharming has been). β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β € β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β € I  paid for my room πŸ˜€ and received zero things for free. So not am ad, just sharing what I love.
  • I found hope in Hope thanks to nature and my nieces.
  • Possibilities.
  • "After you have exhausted what there is in business, politics, conviviality, and so on - have found that none of these finally satisfy, or permanently wear - what remains? Nature remains." Happy 200th birthday, Walt Whitman
  • Spring is always the most alive after the darkest and rainiest of winters. #hyggehouse
  • "There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind." C. S. Lewis. Or, as the Secret Sisters sang, "Tomorrow will be kinder."


Everyday Hygge

Camping 101

January 9, 2012
Big Sur Camping

From about 18-24 I was a camper whether it was a weeklong campout in one spot, lake side or a backpacking trip in the New Zealand mountains. My best-friend Emily and I never stayed in hotels; we had all the gear for camping and we took full advantage of this at every turn. I had the mentality of camp or bust which helped me to see a lot of the world for very little and also, I think, relax (nature has a calming effect on me).

When I moved to America in 1999, I was initially in Tennessee then Kentucky. Wanting to move to SEattle so badly and being broke, the only way to drive across country was to do it by staying at campgrounds. No problem, I thought, I’ve camped a lot.

But this trip happened years and years after regular camping. The gear I had was cheaply made and lots of essential components were missing. That meant when camping in Kansas, the winds beat like a heavy drum against the tent all night. I froze in the Colorado mountains and was soaked in the Grand Tetons.

Needless to say, camping wasn’t that much fun.

I essentially gave up on camping over the years – not because I lacked interest but because comfort began to mean more as I got older and having the financial ability to stay at four star hotels made me less inclined to sleep on dirt.

It wasn’t until this summer when a friend suggested we go camping – and he said he’d bring all the gear and food – that I went again. We camped in Big Sur CA with a million dollar view and ate by camp firelight every night. It was a good first trip that reminded me why I loved camping in the first place.

But it also reminded me that camping now requires some basics – and some comfort – that I’m not willing to compromise on. Call it glamping if you will but I need to have camping feel as good as possible from knowing I have the right tools (and always put together in a kit for easy access when I want to go camping) to having the right gear (a great tent, blankets, food prep etc).

There’s several camping trips already planned for this year so in preperation I’d love your help on building my camping gear kit. If you’re a camper, what are your tricks, your essentials, your ‘things that just make it better’?


  • Tent
  • Tent supplies (lights, sacks, cleaning etc).
  • Lights (lamps, flashlights)
  • Firestarters
  • Pots/Pans (what ones do you use, what’s the most essential)
  • Making coffee/tea
  • Wash bin (for dishes)
  • Clean up supplies
  • Cooking
  • Storage for food
  • How do you prep/keep food? What food do you bring?
  • Organizing it all (how do you keep it all together so you can just take a box and go camping?)
  • Extras that make camping better?
  • Reply
    ElaineNo Gravatar
    January 9, 2012 at 2:36 PM

    I’m a camper from way back, as well. These days I find a nice foam pad to sleep on is essential. My “box” for camping was once a list that I kept secure and updated after every trip with details. I used this list when preparing for the next trip. These days I keep all my stuff in the shed on shelves, ready to pick up. I doubt it’s possible to have things ready to go at a moment’s notice. Something always breaks, rusts out, or is in worse condition than remembered. The most essential item to pack is a sense of fun and some patience. Have fun!

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    gabrielleNo Gravatar
    January 9, 2012 at 8:06 PM

    your timing couldn’t be more perfect! i was just in rei this week perusing the aisles looking to build a camping ‘kit’. i really want to camp this year with my 7 year old and thought if i start building my kit now, it wont be such a drain on the pocketbook – I can buy a few things here and there and when summer comes we’ll be ready. where did you stay in big sur (if you don’t mind me asking)?

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    KellyNo Gravatar
    January 9, 2012 at 9:42 PM

    Looking forward to reading others answers to this! As kids we begged our parents to take us camping. It wasn’t until 8th grade they finally said yes and we learned our parents had been holding out on us. They had EVERYTHING — an epic 2-room tent with screened in porch, bunk bed cots (!), folding camping tables and chairs, the works! Turns out they used to go camping pre-kids and had tons of retro, but well-preserved gear. A few tips I learned from Mom: bring a broom and a “welcome mat” for your tent to keep dirt out and bugs away. I think Mom spent the entire weekend sweeping. And treat yourself to a nice air mattress and good pillow.

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    Barbara BarrowsNo Gravatar
    January 10, 2012 at 8:43 PM

    I am still a camping novice. I married into a family that had a pop-up camper and traveled around the US. Here are a few things I discovered from them as well as my own experience:
    1- A camping list to keep on your computer. Print it out every time you go on a trip and modify as you go along.
    2 – Sleeping bag liner – I love these. They are great for adding a few degrees of warmth when your sleeping bag won’t cut it or using as a stand alone when the weather is warm.
    3 – Always bring more garbage bags than you think you need and extra flashlights, ditto for batteries.
    5 – Deck of cards or Uno, especially if there are several of you.
    6 – I found that I get more mileage from several smaller, thinner bath towels than one big, thick bath towel -as it takes longer to dry.
    7 – Bringing a dog – a long lead to tie around the picnic table if he/she is not good off leash.
    8 – Earplugs!!!!! I was the only one who got sleep one night at Pokagon State Park. The rest of the family got to listen to one camper get very drunk and very loud for a very long time. I believe a ranger finally interrupted his rants against the government.
    9 – No earplugs – There are no noisy human neighbors but you want to be woken up for animal visitors such as a black bear who wakes you up in the middle of the night trying to find the salmon you naively cooked at your campsite.
    10 – DONT’T cook salmon at your campsite in bear country. I think I used up my life’s allotment of “Get out of jail cards” for that stupid mistake. God was looking out for me that day, probably shaking his head and saying “I don’t know why I bother sometimes.”.

    • RowenaNo Gravatar
      January 11, 2012 at 3:41 PM

      I love camping! I have some suggestions for supplies, having gone backpacking (where literally everything you need is on your back) and car camping. If you want to “glamp”, the first thought I had was to go get a self inflating airbed – instant comfort! I also like having fresh coffee while still inside my tent, without having to step out into the cold. So, I always pack a “pocket rocket”, so called because it literally fits into a 3 inch plastic case and folds outs into a stove. You just attach the fuel can on the bottom. I set my small very lightweight kettle (all from REI) and boil my water in no time and pour it into my french press made for camping (again REI would have those). I also have a Coleman dual burner stove which packs itself up into a green metal “briefcase.” I think a simple lightweight fry pan is essential for cooking on the stove, as well as a spare barbecue grill grate to put on top of an open fire. I think the rest of your food should be what you can cook over the fire or wrapped in foil. I would suggest making pancake mixes and packing it up in plastic bags, eggs should be secured in a plastic egg case, meat already marinated before you go and packed and kept chilled in a cooler, Spices and coffee/hot cocoa stuff should be packed in labeled plastic bags instead of their original container. I would also get a Coleman foldable plastic water “tank” which has a spigot – useful for washing hands or for drinking water. Don’t forget first aid items such as antiseptic foam in case you snag yourself on rusty barbed wire (yikes!) I think that one can have a “luxurious” camping experience packed into a backpack (tent, sleeping bag, clothes, pillow blanket, first aid kit, stove, coffee supplies, water shoes, socks, sneakers, headlamp) and a Rubbermaid tote for the bulky cooking supplies. A headlamp is better than a flashlight because it keeps your hands free. Also, a Swiss army knife. My tent is a backpacking tent, which means it is designed to fit inside a backpack, very lightweight but comfortable (again REI). If you don’t have any qualms about shopping at Walmart, they are the only one I know that has an extensive collection of Coleman camping products. And by the way, if you want, Coleman also sells a long fork with a wood handle — for making s’mores! (Long wood sticks are neither sanitary nor easy to find). How fun!!

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    AmberNo Gravatar
    January 24, 2012 at 4:58 PM

    Layers! They are my absolute must-have. I have ended up soaking wet in New York winter weather, and extra layers were incredibly important/life saving. Sometimes I take too much, but I’d rather have too much than not enough. A GOOD rainjacket/poncho (generally not the five dollar kind), and great shoes (because I mostly go backpacking/hiking). I also love fun camping things- like sporks. Partially because I enjoy saying “spork,” and partially because it cuts down on pack heft. Food is also important- it keeps you warm from the inside out. If I go winter camping- butter. Old school survival trick. For regular camping- chocolate.

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    maren kristiNo Gravatar
    January 31, 2012 at 4:34 PM

    oooh, I could go on all day! There are so many different kinds of camping and each one possesses its own unique delights, but here are some of my favorite fairly universal items:

    1. Jetboil. If you’re backpacking, its compact and simple. If you’re car camping, its still great to have boiling water with minimal hassle.
    2. Exped air pad. After numerous nights of freezing on a thermarest (I know, ironic), I gave an ‘air mattress’ a go. Exped makes some quality pads. Mine is an insulated air mattress, which means you get the cushion of air with the insulation akin to a sleeping pad. Plus, mine is huge (long, wide, thick) without being too bulky to pack.
    3. Camp chair. Crazy creeks are my favorite, but non-ideal if you’re camping somewhere wet … then its worth it to have something that keeps you off the ground.
    4. Puffy jacket. I’m always cold. Always. So an enormous green down jacket that packs into a little tiny stuff sack is my favorite camping companion.

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    MarieNo Gravatar
    February 13, 2012 at 2:47 AM

    Camping! Goodness, we’ve got our gear down pat now. I was never a camper – my mom’s idea of camping, she claimed, was a 4-star hotel. It wasn’t until I started dating my husband that I got my first taste of the great outdoors and completely and totally fell in love!

    The biggest help we did was we bought a few clear storage containers – one always holds our food supplies (utensils, bowls, plates, cups, foil, salt/pepper, tablecloth, etc) plus paper for starting the camp fires, a candle lighter, matches, etc. We have another that we store our lanterns, flashlights, tent stakes, tarps, etc in. And the others we use for our towels, blankets, etc in case it rains on our way to the campground (We have an open-bed truck so it happens sometimes). Before it took us forever to find all of our gear and pack… now we just grab a few containers, pack our bags and towel and blankets, and hit the road.

    This last year we added an air mattress to our gear and it BY FAR improved my camping experience. I never wanted to be one of those people that complained about being ‘too old’ to sleep on the floor… but it felt like no matter what we did I was always cold and uncomfortable. The air mattress fixed that, and I actually woke up feeling refreshed instead of tired. This coming year I’m going to pick up a plain outdoor porch mat to put in front of our tent entrance to help with mud issues (not so much a problem in the spring but definitely a problem in the fall around here)

    We pack our cooler with some things from the house, but we buy our freezer food stuff (we do chicken cut up with veggies like potatoes and carrots and onions in a foil pack) from the town we’re camping in. It’s just easier than worrying about the cooler not staying the right temperature to prevent food spoilage on those things. We have a picnic backpack that I bring with us to throw some sandwich stuff in for our lunches as we’re usually out hiking during lunch so we have stuff on-the-go.

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    Hygge HouseNo Gravatar
    March 19, 2012 at 1:22 PM

    Wow – thanks everyone for all your ideas and suggestions! I’ve put a list together of things to get and will share an updated post soon!

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