The past few years I’ve struggled with writing. Between being busy, burned out or (recently) immobile, I just haven’t found the mojo to write.
Because I don’t blog for a living, I don’t force myself to write against a calendar so it can become easy to get out of the habit of writing. There’s no agenda or sponsors to please so I’m not forcing things out. I generally write when I feel I’ve got something to say. And over the past couple of years, between being busy, burned out or (recently) immobile, I’ve just lost my voice. Hence the often long silences.
I believe deeply in the Henry David Thoreau quote:
“How vain it is to sit down to write when you have not stood up to live.”
That if I’m not living in the simply, well, hygge way, that I can’t come to this space and write about it. It wouldn’t be authentic and that’s the whole point of this site – and hygge.
The past 7 weeks I’ve spent mainly at home, mainly in bed due to a really severe ankle/foot injury in which I tore every ligament in my lower leg down and fractured 2 bones. Recovery has been brutal both physcially and mentally. It’s forced me to be alone for long periods of time with nothing more to do than think of things like my life, my health, my path.
I couldn’t tell you the last time I had even a weeks worth of rest in the past 5 years.
I struggled a lot with being down at first and then, slowly, I started to see myself again. The act of making tea became a big deal again because it signified I could make it down the steps and be in the kitchen. I was grateful to make it to another room. Baths become a ritual again because I couldn’t stand in the shower and had the time to laze about. I bought a bench for the garden because I couldn’t just stand outside and needed a place to sit. I was being forced to sit a lot and just observe. I tell you, this injury was somehow a gift.
The downtime also had me thinking a lot about hygge and why I started this blog back in 2004. Back then I was actually a total rebel against my Danish heritage. Until then I had embraced my father’s French background as my own and anything Danish? Hygge? No way.
But I started the blog as a way to slow down and recognise the small moments and to connect back to being Danish. And after being back in Denmark in February, I feel like I’ve somehow come full circle to remembering why I began this in the first place.
Hygge is such a trend in a way that I just have a hard time dealing with. I’ve seen article lists of ‘hygge foods’ or ‘hygge things to buy’. The word is being used to market a lifestyle or expensive goods. It’s being used as a way for people to monetize crap. Instagram accounts with the name ‘hygge’ have appeared by the hundreds and they all seem to tag me asking for some kind of recognition. I’ve had 22 book offers and countless media requests. People think I’m crazy to turn it all down, to not monetize, but that’s not what hygge is.
Hygge is connecting. It’s living. It’s being present. I feel like I’m back to feeling this and more importantly, being it. And so, I’m ready to write again.
One of the first things I want to do is make it easier to connect since at it’s heart that’s why hygge is – connecting people or a feeling. So I’ve officially set up an email sign up form so you can get posts emailed directly to you plus the odd little note that I might also send.
If you subscribed using Bloglovin’, you should still be able to receive posts there. But I’d recommend subscribing below to make sure you get everything via email. Don’t worry – your information isn’t sold and you can easily unsubscribe at any time.
And just one last thing: if you’ve followed me for awhile, sent an email, left a comment on Instagram or helped answer a question I’ve asked on Twitter, thank you. I really believe in community + connection, I think I just lost my way a little in it the past year. So thanks for your support and patience. I’m hoping it is worth it 🙂