• This time last year I took my first road trip up California's 395 through the eastern Sierra mountains. I went on to Mammoth, Truckee and Yosemite.

It was epic.

The highlights for me were Bodie (Check out my highlights for "ghost town"), Mammoth (reminded me of the Canadian Rockies), and seeing the Donner Party Memorial/area.

It's a super hard state to live in, but it sure is beautiful. (PS: I made a Spotify playlist for just the drive:
  • I posted this in stories but  got so many comments I had to post it here.

I'd read an article which said how common an electric kettle is in the UK/AU but not in America. 
This was so interesting to me because my kettle is probably my most used appliance. But when I stay in homes here I can never find one.

A lot of Americans told me they use their microwave for hot water or they have a stove top.

And @astridpiepschyk explained it had to do with voltage. "Most Americans don’t own an electric kettle because the electricity voltage is too low to power a kettle effectively. In Australia, UK the voyage is 240, but in America it’s 110, and not very effective in boiling an electric kettle. It works, but takes a long time. This is why stove kettles are much more common." So what started as a post about how I love my half shelf for teacups in my 1930s cupboards turned into a great cultural and scientific conversation.

This is why I love Instagram πŸ˜€
  • Ten years ago I moved to Philadelphia to build Anthropologies first Social Media, Content and Community programs.

It was a dream come true for two reasons. One I loved the company and two I was moving in July which meant I'd have an east coast fall.

It did not disappoint.

I spent every weekend out in nature with rosy cheeks, drinking hot apple cider. All this time later, that fall is still one of my favourite s and I miss it every year.

PS: the last photo is my old garage on my one acre property in Chestnut Hill. I had an 18th century stone home which I loved. I don't think I ever really wrote about this place because i never really settled in. Something I wish I'd done but I was just so consumed with work.
  • I like taking photos at Disneyland that don't look like Disneyland.
  • This is my aunt on my french fathers side. During WWII, she got tuberculosis and was sent to a sanatorium to recover.

To pass time, she and her other young female friends would doll up, take photos and send them plus letters to soldiers to flirt with. Some they knew, some they didn't. Like old-fashioned Bumble. πŸ˜€
She was incredibly smart, witty, and fierce. In this photo she was full of possibilities and hope.

She married soon after to an abusive alcoholic, had four sons and quickly got trapped by circumstance and the era.

She was my favourite family member even though I didn't see her that often. I have one hand written letter from her and this photo which are the few family things I have.

I loved her because she always listened to me - patiently and sincerely. She saw who I really was and was so kind about it and oddly relatable. She gave me direction without advice. She laughed often, was direct when needed and sometimes acted soft. She was the only one who ever called me sweetie (my family nickname at the time was Chuck! and my family never used soft names with each other. So sweetie felt so amazingly special). I had 5 other aunts but I called her just "Aunty" as she defined them all. It was only to her that I felt a connection, unconditional love and a sense of family.

Her situation was always pitiful and dire,  but she never acted like a victim. When I saw her on her deathbed she was so small, weak and wilted from a hard life. But somehow she had always given me courage and strength, as if to say to be the possibilities she couldn't be.

Recently I hung out with my two young adult nieces and they both just called me "Aunty." Not Aunty Alex or Alex. Just Aunty.

It made me feel so special and like we have formed the same bonds that I had with my own Aunty. And that I was now being to them what she was to me. 
But more importantly, they helped me change my idea of her - the one that she never accomplished something. 
Because she did. 
She taught me how to be a good Aunty - one of my favourite things to be. That's her legacy which I think is really beautiful.

Well, that and dressing up when you feel poorly. πŸ˜€
  • The @ojaivalleyinn is one of my favourite places either for a day trip or an overnight. β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β € β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €
I always go when I need supreme rest and healing because I really really get that here. β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β € β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €
There's something so magic and calming about Ojai and this place taps into it so perfectly. And they have the best massages.

My recs? Avoid weekends and holidays. It's insane and the spa isn't as relaxing because it's just so overcrowded.

For rooms, avoid the ones above Libby's Market/Pub (I think they are the original rooms). They're just louder & smaller. β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β € β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €
I've had a suite with a patio, bedroom and fireplace down by the spa that was heaven and I've had a larger room by the main restaurant (I can't remember that buildings name) and both were amazing. This past room was in the Topa building which is their main building and it was really lovely (and had a balcony overlooking the golf course). β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β € β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β € I've  been here with girlfriends, alone, on retreats with work and loved all the experiences. I know a lot of people who come here with kids (@couldihavethat has a recent post in IG and her blog on why it's great for families) and it's also totally dog friendly (@ScoutStCharming has been). β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β € β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β €β € I  paid for my room πŸ˜€ and received zero things for free. So not am ad, just sharing what I love.
  • I found hope in Hope thanks to nature and my nieces.
  • Possibilities.
  • "After you have exhausted what there is in business, politics, conviviality, and so on - have found that none of these finally satisfy, or permanently wear - what remains? Nature remains." Happy 200th birthday, Walt Whitman
  • Spring is always the most alive after the darkest and rainiest of winters. #hyggehouse
  • "There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind." C. S. Lewis. Or, as the Secret Sisters sang, "Tomorrow will be kinder."


Cat + Dog Wanderlust

Travelling With Pets

August 28, 2008
Grace the Cat

Since I travel a lot and own both a cat and a dog, I’m often asked what happens to them. Do they travel, too?

Why yes they do!

I’m a huge believer that both pets and children can be great travellers if exposed early enough and done the right way. When I first got my cat Grace, I lived in a studio flat on a beautiful tree-lined street next door to a park. So I put her on a leash and took her out for daily walks just to expose her to different sounds and situations. And since I didn’t have a car, I’d have to take her to the vet on foot which I did by putting her in a large cage that I carried through the city streets – again so she could see everything and get used to noises. She actually seemed to enjoy the outings, especially since she is 100% an indoor cat. She can do long car trips and actually loves being in hotel rooms (she explores then cuddles in).

My dog Jack, however, was different. Spending the first 10 months of his life in a shelter, he had no idea about the outside world, being a dog, or how to walk (his back leg was gimped at first from sitting so much). The day I brought him home, he had no idea how to get into the car and I had no idea how to coax him in! I tried for about half an hour until one of the shelter people came over and helped me literally push him in. He was terrified of the car (sat curled up and panted heavily), terrified of people, terrified of going anywhere. And since I travelled a lot and wanted a walking companion, that would have to change.

I took him to AKC’s Canine Good Citizen classes at the Dog Boys Ranch in Austin TX. I also boarded him there a lot and had him do a lot of day visits just to get used to being social and having the training reinforced since the trainers also worked the ranch. I also took him on lots of day trips in the car to get him used to driving and I took him to shops (he has spent a great amount of time at Anthropologie!) and places that allowed pets to get him used to being around people. All of that along with a lot of patience, Jack has become an amazing traveller – a fabulous walker, happily gets into the car and even sticks his head out the window to boot!

Now that Jack is Canine Good Citizen certified and has had a lot of exposure, having him stay in hotels hasn’t been a problem. At first, he’d do quiet woofs when he heard people walking past the door but through training and lots of hotel rooms, he no longer does this. Bringing in his certificate to check in desks, I’ve had a lot of hotels forgo the “nightly pet charge” they sometimes give. Although I tend to stay either at Kimpton Hotels or Four Seasons – both of which are very pet friendly, have no surcharge and provide treats. But having him certified and knowing he’s a great traveller, I can stay at B&B’s or house rentals with ease.

Now, both pets have driven across country several times, have done lots of day trips, and have stayed in some of the most luxurious hotels around. So here’s what I take and do whilst travelling with them:

The trick with cats is to give them space and not make them feel confined. Cats are curious and if they can’t see what’s going on, they get even more nervous. I bought the most fantastic cat carrier – the Fold Away Pet Carrier. It’s huge, spacious, has a top and side door and folds down for easy storage. Grace can see out and she can stand up in it (she’s 15lbs!). When I stop, I open the top part of the cage so she can stretch and I can pet her. Makes us both happy.

Also, I always have The Mysterious Purr Pads on hand. I don’t know a cat yet that can resist them; they give a cat comfort. They fit nicely into the carrier (I put layer of paper towel under them in the carrier in case Grace has an accident whilst travelling. Easy clean up, then I just put in a new purr pad). Use them especially at a vet on the table as cats hate cold and those vet tables are always freezing and slippery. One of these (or a towel) will keep cats mellow. They also provide consistency, so when travelling Grace knows where to sleep when we get to a hotel (and it keeps hotel room furniture/bedding fur free).

For food, I use two Pet Travel Tainers from the Container Store. It’s an easy way to carry their food and comes with two dishes for food and water.

In the car, I use a blanket on the back seat for Jack and then when in the hotel, I bring it in. Again this helps with the consistency of him feeling at home but also protects bedding at hotels.

When on the road, I really monitor temperature. I’ve been doing a lot of driving between Los Angeles and San Francisco since September (six hours) where the average road temperate is over 100F. If the sun hits the window directly onto the pet, no amount of AC is really going to help. So I make sure to block windows with blankets or keep the cage out of the sun. I also try to leave early in the morning or late in the day to avoid mid day heat/sun.

I make sure pets have lots of water. The Gulpy is my favourite thing for Jack because he overheats so quickly and this provides me with an easy way to quickly give him water. I keep his in the fridge so it’s always cold (and helps cool him down).

Stopping at every rest stop is crucial not just for the pets, but also for me. It allows us all a chance to stretch, chill out, get water – even if it’s just a 5 minute stop. If your pet is prone to car sickness, this can really help. Also finding the straightest route will too. I once drove with Jack along Big Sur Highway 1 in California and two hours of twists and turns was just too much for this otherwise perfect traveller. I learned to avoid that stretch of road with him.

The Dog Lover’s Companion to California: The Inside Scoop on Where to Take Your Dog has been a huge life saver for travelling. You can find these books for your city or area but the California one was been my go to since I have been travelling it heaps. It has been accurate in describing dog parks (especially in finding off-leash parks whilst on the road), helping me find fun activities to do with my Jack (from riding trains to ferries) and has helped a lot with hotels in small places. I was doing a road trip in Northern California on a hot day and wanted to stop at a lake, which the book said had no dog friendly areas. A quick stop into Visitor Information and I discovered a newly opened dog beach so that Jack and I could take a swim. Since dog laws change quickly (dogs get banned from parks and then a new park opens up), local Visitor centres can be helpful as well.

And most important, I keep both pets tagged. I have my phone, email and city on both their tags plus with Jack, he has his shots tag so there’s never hesitation when he’s staying somewhere about him being vaccinated. Both pets are electronically tagged (Grace has a tattoo, Jack has a micro chip). Keep this info up to date so on the off chance your pet goes missing, you can get them home safe and sound.

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    Janine FranceschiNo Gravatar
    August 28, 2008 at 4:58 AM

    I think that you and your readers will get great use out of a new resource: PAW;Pet-friendly Accommodations Worldwide on the web at PAW is the only online pet-friendly hotel booking engine that exclusively caters to luxury, pet-friendly hotels. PAW only features 4-star or higher rated pet-friendly hotels from which to choose and book your hotel stay. It’s a great resource for people who travel with pets and want a pet-friendly hotel with a nice level of amenity!!

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    CourtneyNo Gravatar
    August 28, 2008 at 6:43 AM

    This is great information – thanks so much for sharing. Have you ever traveled internationally with your pets or know someone who has? Can you recommend any great companies to use for this?


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    jamesNo Gravatar
    August 28, 2008 at 9:00 AM

    hi alex! i know you travel quite a bit internationally — do you take your pets with you then, or board them? if you do take them with you, do you have tips on how to make it easier on the pet? i have a cat and will need to take her across the ocean in the future, so experienced advice is welcome. thanks!

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    Hygge HouseNo Gravatar
    August 30, 2008 at 5:13 PM

    Grace was born in Canada so that’s not really international but crossing the border with her, I had to have all of her paper work up to date and it was a rather quick process.

    I have flown with her once and I paid for a first class ticket. My reasoning was that when you fly first class, you get treated a lot better and can get away with taking on more. I had a smaller carrier for her so I could take her on. First or business is hardly ever full and there is WAY more room. So I was able to fit her underneath the (unused) seat next to me and whilst flying, bring her up and sit her next to me. This was a relatively painless experience.

    I’ve heard too many horror stories about putting pets in cargo. If you have to do it, do some google research about different carries, don’t fly when it’s really hot or cold, don’t do connecting flights etc. But it’s really one of the most traumatising things for a pet. Even though business or fist might be expensive, it’s worth it if you have a cat or small dog. It’s just more relaxing for everyone, more space and less full means less noise/stress to the pet. Or consider buying to coach tickets side by side so you have extra room next door.

    As for European travel, I plan to do this with Jack but I’m going to do the Queen Elizabeth II ship from NY to Southampton. They have luxury kennels on board and you can visit your pets. I’ve had a few friends go this route and it was a great experience (and they have a lot of deals).

    The great news about Europe is that most counties now to NOT quarantine pets! So as long as you have all your paperwork showing their shots/vaccines are up to date, then you will generally have no problems. I have friends who travel all over Europe with their dogs and haven’t had issues.

    Hope that helps!

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    CourtneyNo Gravatar
    August 30, 2008 at 6:33 PM

    Ugh. We are moving from TX to Singapore in January and I am having a mild panic attack about shipping my pet. She’s a St. Bernard…I don’t think we can bring her on the plane since she’s 130 lbs and not exactly “under the seat” size. Any suggestions you’d have that I can look into would be great!!

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    StellaNo Gravatar
    September 5, 2008 at 4:09 PM

    Thank you for this! It is a very timely post for me as I am getting ready to relocate from Philadelphia to Phoenix and am very anxious about bringing my cat, Ginger, on the plane with me. I have been researching soft carriers so that she will fit on the plane under the seat. My heart would break if I had to cargo her!

    Thanks again for all your advice!

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